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홍차넷
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질문
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- 질문 게시판입니다.
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전체기타게임진로연애가정/육아체육/스포츠교육의료/건강철학/종교IT/컴퓨터여행과학문화/예술법률홍차넷경제
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| Subject | 본인 또는 배우자가 이혼가정 자녀인 분들께 궁금해요 |
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저는 아주 어릴때 부모님이 이혼하셨고, 재혼안하시고 엄마 혼자 저를 키우셨어요. 폭력, 외도, 도박 등의 사유도 아니고 감정적으로나 재정적으로나 부족함은 없었어서 사실 크게 아버지의 부재를 느끼고 자라진 않았어요. 그러다가 가끔 한번씩 그 부재가 느껴질때가 있는데, TV나 얘기들어서 간접적으로 아는거 말고 직접적으로 가정에서 남편,아버지 역할을 몸으로 부딪혀본 적이 없다보니 그 역할이 뭔지 정확하겐 잘 모르겠더라고요. 예를 들면 놀이터나 캠핑장에서 놀아주는 아기 아빠 모습을 볼때 아 저런역할을 하는구나, 친구들이 아빠랑 츤데레같은 톡 주고받은거 보여줄때, 집안에서 엄마가 못질해서 뭐 고치고 뚝딱뚝딱 만드는게 당연했는데 남들은 아빠가 한다고할때(?), 학창시절 고모 큰아버지 개념을 처음 알게됐을때의 이상한 기분, 술자리 예절을 아빠가 가르쳐줬다는 친구들에 비해 나는 직장가서 대표님한테 배웠을때(?), 남동생은 어떻게 넥타이매고 면도하는법을 배웠는지 궁금해짐 등등 아무튼... 그래서 제 질문은 1. 아버지의 부재가 저에게 영향을 미친건 사실인거 같은데 결혼 후에 아내로서 저런 역할을 잘 모를때 발생할만한 이슈가 어떤게 있을까요? 경험담이면 더 좋을것같고(미리 학습하는 차원에서^^;;) 그걸 해결하려면 어떤 노력을 해야할지 조언 부탁드려요. (사실 꼭 결혼생활에서만이 아니어도 일반적인 가치관이든 행동이든 문제해결방식이든 뭔가 다르다고 느끼신게 있다면 알려주셔도 좋을거같아요) 2. 결혼할때 상대방 가정환경을 꽤 중요하게 생각하는 분들이 많고, 이혼가정 자녀라고 하면 특히 부모님 세대에서는 좋지않게 생각하는 분들이 많은데 구체적으로 어떤 이유 때문인지 객관적으로 궁금해요 (폭력, 외도, 도박, 부양문제, 재정적문제, 감정적인 결핍 등은 없다고 제외하고 그 자체적인 이유나 또다른 이유가 있는지) 그리고 상대방 부모님이 그냥 그럴수있지 하고 쿨하게 넘어가셨는지 아니면 혹시 반대하셨다면 어떻게 대처하셨는지 궁금합니다. 좀 조심스러운 이야기라 답변이 달릴지 모르겠네요^^; Warning: Use of undefined constant no - assumed 'no' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view.php on line 133 Warning: Use of undefined constant no - assumed 'no' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view.php on line 146 Warning: Use of undefined constant vote - assumed 'vote' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view.php on line 161 0 |
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저도 편모가정이었는데,
일하면서 만난 삼촌들에게서 대충 아버지의 부재를 넘겼읍니다.
단지, 가정 내에서 어떤 전형적인 아버지의 모습이란걸 보고 배운게 적다보니
무얼 하나 해도 능숙하지 못하고 서투르긴 하더라고요.
그래도 책임과 애정으로 다 커버가 되는거 같읍니다.
장인장모님께서는 제가 편모가정인걸 알고도 반대하거나 안좋게 보진 않으셨는데,
아버지와의 인연을 회복하지 않고 방치하는 것에 대해서는 걱정을 하시는 눈치입니다.
손윗동서들도 마찬가지이고.
제가 그 입장이 되어보지 않아서 평생 그 마음을 알 수는 ... 더 보기
일하면서 만난 삼촌들에게서 대충 아버지의 부재를 넘겼읍니다.
단지, 가정 내에서 어떤 전형적인 아버지의 모습이란걸 보고 배운게 적다보니
무얼 하나 해도 능숙하지 못하고 서투르긴 하더라고요.
그래도 책임과 애정으로 다 커버가 되는거 같읍니다.
장인장모님께서는 제가 편모가정인걸 알고도 반대하거나 안좋게 보진 않으셨는데,
아버지와의 인연을 회복하지 않고 방치하는 것에 대해서는 걱정을 하시는 눈치입니다.
손윗동서들도 마찬가지이고.
제가 그 입장이 되어보지 않아서 평생 그 마음을 알 수는 ... 더 보기
저도 편모가정이었는데,
일하면서 만난 삼촌들에게서 대충 아버지의 부재를 넘겼읍니다.
단지, 가정 내에서 어떤 전형적인 아버지의 모습이란걸 보고 배운게 적다보니
무얼 하나 해도 능숙하지 못하고 서투르긴 하더라고요.
그래도 책임과 애정으로 다 커버가 되는거 같읍니다.
장인장모님께서는 제가 편모가정인걸 알고도 반대하거나 안좋게 보진 않으셨는데,
아버지와의 인연을 회복하지 않고 방치하는 것에 대해서는 걱정을 하시는 눈치입니다.
손윗동서들도 마찬가지이고.
제가 그 입장이 되어보지 않아서 평생 그 마음을 알 수는 없겠지만,
'그래도 혈육인데/아버진데 살아계시는 동안 관계는 회복하는게 후회를 피할 수 있을 것이다' 라는
보편적이고 전통적인 가족관에서 기인한, 저를 향한 애정이라고 받아들이고 있읍니다.
일하면서 만난 삼촌들에게서 대충 아버지의 부재를 넘겼읍니다.
단지, 가정 내에서 어떤 전형적인 아버지의 모습이란걸 보고 배운게 적다보니
무얼 하나 해도 능숙하지 못하고 서투르긴 하더라고요.
그래도 책임과 애정으로 다 커버가 되는거 같읍니다.
장인장모님께서는 제가 편모가정인걸 알고도 반대하거나 안좋게 보진 않으셨는데,
아버지와의 인연을 회복하지 않고 방치하는 것에 대해서는 걱정을 하시는 눈치입니다.
손윗동서들도 마찬가지이고.
제가 그 입장이 되어보지 않아서 평생 그 마음을 알 수는 없겠지만,
'그래도 혈육인데/아버진데 살아계시는 동안 관계는 회복하는게 후회를 피할 수 있을 것이다' 라는
보편적이고 전통적인 가족관에서 기인한, 저를 향한 애정이라고 받아들이고 있읍니다.
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