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홍차넷
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질문
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- 질문 게시판입니다.
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| Name | [익명] |
| Subject | 예비신부와 결혼식 전 동거 중 소비패턴 문제에 대해... |
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안녕하세요. 이제 결혼식이 1달 반 정도 남은 예비 신랑입니다. 예비신부와는 약 2달 전 쯤 부터 미리 구한 신혼집에서 신혼생활을 먼저 하고 있습니다.(양가 어른들의 동의하에요.) 결혼식은 조금 남았지만, 주변 사람들한테는 이미 유부남 대우 받고 있습니다. 저 또한 제 자신을 결혼한 사람이라고 생각하고 생활하고 있고, 예비 신부도 마찬가지 입니다. 그런데 동거를 한 지 2달 정도 지난 지금 여러가지 예상치 못한 문제점들이 발생하고 있습니다. 해당 문제들에 대해 대화로 잘 해결하고 싶은데, 상대방이 상처 받지 않으면서도 제 의견을 잘 전달할만한 방법을 찾고 있습니다. 가장 중요하게 생각하는 부분은 상대방이 기분 나쁘지 않게 입니다. 예비신부는 18년도 한 해 동안 고시 준비를 하느냐 1주일에 2번, 총 10시간(1달에 40시간) 짜리 일을 겸행하면서 공부를 했습니다. (시험 결과가 좋지 않아 올해도 비슷하게 진행될거 같습니다.) 해당 일을 하면 1달 수입이 60만원이 채 되지 않습니다. 제 1달 수입은 300만원 정도인데, 예비신부 수입은 100% 본인 생활비로 사용하고, 제 수입에서 거의 150만원 정도를 1달 지출에 사용합니다.(생활비+의식주+차량 유지비+세금 등) 여기까지는 결혼 전에 미리 합의한 부분이고 예상한 부분이라 큰 문제는 없는데, 문제는 에비신부의 소비 패턴 입니다. 예비신부와 4년 정도 연애를 하면서 평소에 인터넷 쇼핑을 좋아하는건 알고 있었습니다. 그런데 같이 지내다 보니... 좀 도가 지나친거 같습니다.(수입에 비해 쓰는 돈이 많아 보입니다.) 비싼거 사는건 없고 대다수가 1만원 이하 혹은 비싸봐야 2~3만원 정도의 제품들인데, 빈도가 잦아 가랑비에 옷 젖듯이 지출이 상당해 집니다. 1주일에 택배 상자 와있는 경우가 3~4일이 기본이고, 본인은 부정하지만 제가 보기에 취미가 핸드폰으로 인터넷 쇼핑 일정도로 하루에 30분~1시간 정도는 위메프, 티몬, 쿠팡, 11번가 등 핫딜이나 세일하는 제품들 보는데 시간을 씁니다. 물론 2~30가지 제품을 보면 1개 사는 정도지만 하두 많이 보다 보니 사는 제품이 점점 많아집니다. 문제는 꼭 필요한것만 사는게 아니라 할인을 많이 하는 제품들을 혹해서 산다는 겁니다.(물론 언젠가는 쓰긴 쓸지도 모르지만 제 기준에서는 불 필요한 소비로 보입니다.) 예를들어 집에 중형 향초+향초워머가 있고 잘 쓰고 있는데, 대형 향초를 엄청난 특가에 판매하고 있으면 대형 향초를 삽니다. 그리고 집에 있는 중형 향초워머로는 해당 향초를 사용하지 못하기 때문에 대형 향초용 워머를 또 구매합니다. 그럼 집에는 굳이 쓸데 없이 향초워머가 두개가 되는 거죠...(한 개만 있으면 충분합니다.) 또 다른 예시를 들자면 집에 여러번 신은 커플 운동화가 2켤레 정도 있고, 개시도 안한 커플 운동화도 1켤레가 있는 상황 입니다. 이런 상황에서 핫딜 같은걸로 (정가 10만원 정도의 운동화가 2만원대 정도에 팔고 있다면) 운동화가 뜨면 또 커플 운동화를 사자고 디자인을 고르고 있습니다. 커플 운동화로 2켤레 사면 5만원 정도지만 저는 이것도 쓸데 없는 지출이라고 생각하는데, 예비 신부는 운동화는 어짜피 있으면 계속 신을 수 있으니 굉장히 합리적인 소비라고 생각하는것 같습니다.(저렴하게 샀으니...) 하지만 이런 소비가 반복 되다보니 지출이 굉장히 커지는 느낌이 들고 실질적으로 예비신부 수입만으로 구매하는게 아니라 동거 후 부터는 제 수입으로도 일부 제품들을 구매하다 보니, 저는 예기치 못했던 지출들이 발생한다고 느껴져 불 필요한 소비라는 생각이 크게 느껴집니다. 이런 상황에서 현명하게 문제점을 해결할 방법을 찾고 있습니다. 물론 둘의 대화가 제일 중요한 건 알고 있지만 어떤 방식으로, 어떤 논조와 워딩 등으로 접근하는게 최대한 상대방이 상처받지 않으면서 해당 문제점을 인지하고 고칠 수 있을지 조언 부탁 드립니다. p.s 1 제가 제일 걱정하는 부분은 예비신부는 결혼 전이나 결혼 후에나 똑같은 소비패턴을 보이고 있는데(본인 생각에) 결혼 후 제가 그 부분을 바꾸려고 하는 부분에 대해 반발심이 생기고, 기분이 상할 수 있을거 같다는 부분 입니다. p,s 2 인터넷 쇼핑 등으로 한달에 쓰이는 총 비용이 약 5~60만원 정도이고 이 중에 제가 생각하기에 불필요한 소비라고 생각하는 비용은 2~30만원 정도 입니다. Warning: Use of undefined constant no - assumed 'no' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view.php on line 133 Warning: Use of undefined constant no - assumed 'no' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view.php on line 146 Warning: Use of undefined constant vote - assumed 'vote' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view.php on line 161 0 |
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Warning: Use of undefined constant is_admin - assumed 'is_admin' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/pb/lib.php on line 605
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54075 class="iamcmt" style="display:none;"> Warning: Use of undefined constant no - assumed 'no' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 66
54075 class='vcm '>
Warning: Use of undefined constant x - assumed 'x' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 70
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Warning: Use of undefined constant x - assumed 'x' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 71
Warning: Use of undefined constant ismember - assumed 'ismember' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 71
Warning: Use of undefined constant no - assumed 'no' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 76
Warning: Use of undefined constant ismember - assumed 'ismember' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 117
Warning: Use of undefined constant ismember - assumed 'ismember' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 118
Warning: Use of undefined constant ismember - assumed 'ismember' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 119
Warning: Use of undefined constant ismember - assumed 'ismember' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 120
Warning: Use of undefined constant ismember - assumed 'ismember' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 121
54075'> 맥주만땅
Warning: Use of undefined constant mod_date - assumed 'mod_date' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 133
Warning: Use of undefined constant no - assumed 'no' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 140
Warning: Use of undefined constant no - assumed 'no' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 140
Warning: Use of undefined constant reg_date - assumed 'reg_date' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 142
19/01/14 10:14
54075>삭제 주소복사
Warning: Use of undefined constant level - assumed 'level' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 150
육아 스트레스로 인한 인터넷 쇼핑에 비하면 수험 스트레스에 의한 인터넷쇼핑은 아무것도 아닙니다
같이 살면서 자금 계획을 세우면 좋아질 겁니다
Warning: Use of undefined constant level - assumed 'level' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 158
Warning: Use of undefined constant password - assumed 'password' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 166
Warning: Use of undefined constant vote - assumed 'vote' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 171
Warning: Use of undefined constant vote - assumed 'vote' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 172
Warning: Use of undefined constant no - assumed 'no' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 173
Warning: Use of undefined constant no - assumed 'no' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 173
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같이 살면서 자금 계획을 세우면 좋아질 겁니다
Warning: Use of undefined constant level - assumed 'level' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 158
Warning: Use of undefined constant password - assumed 'password' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 166
Warning: Use of undefined constant vote - assumed 'vote' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 171
Warning: Use of undefined constant vote - assumed 'vote' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 172
Warning: Use of undefined constant no - assumed 'no' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 173
Warning: Use of undefined constant no - assumed 'no' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 173
Warning: Use of undefined constant vote - assumed 'vote' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/redtea/html/a_skin/bbsd/view_comment.php on line 173
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